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October 3, 2011

Written in 2009

It happens every once in a while. And often there’s not much you can do about it. That doesn’t mean you have no right to be slightly annoyed, or tired (or often, both). On wednesday I had a delay with the trains of about an hour and 45 minutes, on thursday I had an even longer delay with the plane. I got there in the end, at least. That’s the most important thing. What I find remarkable, or perhaps that isn’t the right word, is that in times like this people seek out each other and are more likely to help one another. I met some nice people in the train and the plane (well, the train station and airport, respectively). Talking with strangers – or actually, interacting with strangers (because that term includes body language) – tires me. It is nice though to not feel completely dependent on oneself even if it is tiring. And tiring it is – my headache is still there – or maybe again. In the end the interaction with kind strangers is (one of) the positive side(s) of delays – the negatives being somewhat obvious of course.

Make-up, high-heels, no armpit hair, big breasts and a thin body: the ultimate media ugly fake.

December 10, 2009

Since no one has seen this site but me (unless someone randomly typed in this address), it’d be ok for me to post my opinion. Well, that’s what I’ve been doing but today I wanted to post about another subject. One that I feel differently about compared to most people. Make-up and high heels. Let me start with the latter, since that might be the shortest one.

Recently I was talking with my classmates and one of them just bought new shoes. Both of them are guys, he said he really needed some new shoes. Anyway, I said they looked nice, and that I needed some new shoes myself but that at the moment the fashion for women seems to be boots and high-heel shoes or something, since I couldn’t find anything but that, yet. I can’t remember precisely how the conversation progressed but it came down to this. They didn’t like boots or high-heel shoes either, one of them even mentioned women (or girls) having their trousers tucked in them. It was a good conversation, it’s good to find people agreeing with oneself :). I think I also said that high-heels are bad for feet (which they are). Now I understand that really small people may wear them, to appear taller (I’m a bit short, but I wouldn’t.), but sometimes you see a really tall woman with high-heels and I’m like.. WHY!? I guess some people just like them, despite the fact that it’s really bad for your feet. I have some high-heel shoes (or maybe they’d be more mid-heel?) but I’ve only worn them a few times. I much prefer my normal shoes to be honest. I wish the media would stop with the image, as well. Which isn’t just high-heels, mind.

If I had to draw up one image that the media gives that you should be as a woman, it’d be this: high-heels, quite a bit of make-up, blonde hair (EDIT 2020: white skin), big breasts (compared to body), thin body. That this person would be out of proportion and would have a sore back, is not taken into consideration. She would also have aching feet after a while, and her natural beauty wouldn’t be allowed out.

Which brings me to the other point: make-up. Personally, I don’t like it. I can’t really stand the feeling on me. My skin is sensitive. I’ve worn lipstick once when I was a child (school made me) and I didn’t like it at all. I’ve worn nail polish as well when I was a little girl but also just a few times I think. My personal opinion is, make-up doesn’t make me better looking. This is how I feel about it. For other people, I also think it doesn’t make them any more beautiful. I know there are many people who disagree. But this is my opinion. Just like art is personal ;). People in my family wear make-up on occasion, but personally I prefer them without. They just look better that way (more beautiful) as well as more natural. I think the movie and television industry really doesn’t help there, when children are young they see adults behave a certain way and many of them will copy that behaviour. This applies to many more things than just make-up, obviously. Just like children who see their parents smoke or drink (in front of them) are more likely to do it themselves when they’re older.

Here’s another thing that seems to be playing in our society for the past.. well quite a long time. Whenever you go to the beach or whenever you see a movie or television series, generally women (and girls) shave their armpits. The men generally do not. I can’t go to the beach without being one of the few that looks different there (despite the fact that having a few hairs under your arm is completely natural), sometimes I even get weird looks (or I could be imagining this). People, this hair is NATURAL! Pull your head out of the sand, it doesn’t bother me (by itself) that there’s a few natural hairs under my arm, they don’t itch me, they don’t hurt me, so why does it bother you so. Because I look different? The hairs themselves don’t bother me, it’s the people and their looks that bother me. In fact some guys would find it unattractive (again, despite the fact that nature made me have a few hairs there), which I always found a little odd. You have hairs under your armpits too you know, just as natural! So you can have them, and I can’t? What ******** is that? Anyway, I’ve only discussed that subject a few years ago with a few people, it’s not something you’d discuss with just anyone really. Let me go on a crazy thought here and say that the media might be trying to push this image through so the companies who make certain (beauty) products get more money? The media lets us believe we aren’t good enough the way we are. It wants us to believe we need cremes, dyed hair (no grey hair!), no hairs under armpits or on legs (arms are not much talked about I think?), big breasts, make-up every day…

I believe this. I’m right the way I am. Many, many times media or people, or companies have tried to convince me otherwise. They had me believing it for quite a while. But it is not so. I’m perfectly fine the way I am, and if some stranger doesn’t like that, too bad. So what if my hair is brown? I love its dark brown colour (several tints, really). So what if I have glasses? I can’t see without them otherwise. So what if I have a body that’s in proportion? Who are you anyway stranger, that you’re looking at me in that way!

I’m glad I can be me when I’m alone and when I’m with my boyfriend. He is really supportive and feels the same as I do about many things. He thinks I look beautiful (I don’t wear make-up), he likes my shoes, and he loves my hair, as well as the rest of me.  He is perfect.

Vagueness at the train station

December 7, 2009

Next year the ticket system for public transport will be changed here. I’ve recieved a flyer which says I need to activate my card at certain machines (with a picture). I’ve looked but I couldn’t find anything resembling the picture at the train stations, or anything I could use the active the card before I can use it. Today I went to the ticket service at the station and asked where I could find a machine. They told me that they didn’t know much about it, that it was already activated and that I wouldn’t need to check in and out, during the week at least. So I’m a little confused now because the flyer said something else. No idea what to do. Vagueness ><.

I don’t like it when things are too vague, to be honest. Not much I can do about it at the moment, but thought I’d write it down. I used to write quite a bit about things like this, with metaphores and what not. Very tempting to use one (if only for nostalgia’s sake, that I can only share with myself because I’ve never told anyone my metaphore for vagueness)..